Happy Birthday to Me

Yes, it's finally here. I'm 35-years-old.

Tonight, Mrs. Undaground will make Mom's Chicken Curry. If I've learned anything in 35 years, it's that anything involving baked mayonnaise is delicious.

Apparently, I share a birthday with Clint Eastwood, Brooke Shields, Walt Whitman and the former King of Portugal. I wonder what Clint Eastwood gets for his birthday dinner, probably some sort of beef jerky and a can of beans cooked over a campfire. I like mine better.

Today also marks the halfway point of the pregnancy. We're 20 weeks. For my birthday, I've asked for the honor of naming our first child. When I mentioned that to Mrs. Undaground, she said "But I already got you a present."

Compliments of my mother, here is her story about the day I was born:

Your birthday fell on a Monday. There was a Memorial Day celebration planned behind the barbershop on the Elmwood Park circle. All the relatives had a wonderful day celebrating your arrival. I couldn’t make it.

There was a nest of robins that I had been watching all spring – first there was the building of the nest – above the eaves of the porch. Then there were 3 little blue eggs – then little birds chirping whenever the robin mom left them to go find food. On Sunday morning, the day before your arrival, I witnessed those little birds leaving the nest and took it as a sign that you may make your exit (or entrance whatever way you look at it) real soon.

Sure enough, Sunday night around 9pm, the action started. My mother said to stay home as long as possible because once I got to the hospital, they would make me lay down and it’s better to be home, move around, etc. I was too scared to stay home – I wanted to be in the hands of the pros. We got to the hospital and as the orderly wheeled me upstairs – my mother looked at me with tears in her eyes. I said, "Are these tears of joy?" She said "no, I’m crying because I know what you’re going to go through". It made me a little apprehensive. These were the days before Lamaze and/or epidurals. It was all quite primitive but oddly interesting.

I could have been a better observer of the experience if I hadn’t been so involved in it. Instincts take over, you start controlling your breathing without being taught. One also learns how to curse like a drunken sailor even though these words have never before peppered one’s vocabulary. Oh, how I suffered for you. I was so relieved when it got to "push time". (You know the feeling. You get it yourself every year on Memorial Day evening due to the brats, pasta salad and beer.)

Suddenly - the crown – my baby has black hair! Then came your back and shoulders – my baby has black back hair! Look at my baby’s little black hairy legs! Some things ran through my head – species concerns, etc. But mostly what ran through my head and heart was an amazing, overwhelming feeling of love. Never had I felt such intense and immediate intimacy with any living creature. So, here was this helpless, beautiful little baby that I vowed to love and protect forever. By the way, I am so sorry about the haircutting ear incident.

You were born at 7:26 am – your grandmother found a penny on the floor of the waiting room at that exact minute – I still have it. Your birthday was filled with symbolism. It was also one of the happiest days of my life. Welcome to earth little boy and happy birthday.

Thanks, Mom. And I still have the carcasses of those little robins. They didn't make it past age four.

Dre-e-e-e-eam, dream, dream, dream, dre-e-e-e-eam.

Any dream doctors out there? Analyze this, please:

The other night, after a holiday cocktail consisting of bratwurst, pasta salad and Miller Lite, I eventually floated off to sleep. Normally, I don't remember my dreams, but this night was an exception.

I was preparing for a play of some sort. I couldn't really get a handle on what part I was playing, but it was some kind of medieval theme. With the performance approaching, I was growing increasingly anxious that we had never had a rehearsal. I looked at the script over and over again, but couldn't force myself to remember my lines. I kept thinking, "Why would we do a play without a rehearsal?" How would we know where to stand? How would we know when to say what? I decided to write my lines down and put them inside my hat so I could refer to them during the performance.

The strange thing about this is that I woke up twice and thought, OK, I know this is a dream. I don't really have to remember my lines. There is no performance. I went back to sleep and started dreaming the same thing, all the while knowing that I was dreaming. I was simply curious to see what the play was about. I think it was a lucid dream, since I was fully aware that I was dreaming. Unfortunately, the alarm sounded before I could watch my own performance. Good thing, because I don't think it would have been very good.

I should mention that, sandwiched in between those dreams, I had another one. This time, I was standing outside of a dugout, watching several baseball games going on at one time. It was some sort of community college baseball league. I remember thinking that I could play with those guys, and I wanted to get in the game.

Then, I saw that the pitcher on one of the teams was a little person. That was impressive to me, that a little person could pitch against college kids. I saw that the little guy was not standing on the mound, though. He was standing halfway between the mound and home plate. Because of this, the little person pitcher had a great advantage in the game. He was so close to the batter, that he was easily able to fire the pitches past him at an incredible speed. I don't think this is legal in baseball terms, but in dreams, anything goes.

OK, dream interpreters, fire away. What does it all mean?

R.I.P.

Actor Paul Gleason died. For me, he was one of the best movie villains of my generation, the principal from the Breakfast Club.

Thank you, Paul Gleason, for these memorable quotes:

"You're not fooling anyone Bender. The next screw that falls out will be you."

"Don't mess with the bull, young man. You'll get the horns."

"What if your home... what if your family... what if your dope was on fire?"

"The next time I have to come in here I'm crackin' skulls."

Sacrifice

Good morning and Happy Memorial Day to all.

Let it be known that I am working today in my continuing effort to extend the length of my "paternity leave". I'd rather be changing a poopy diaper in October, than chilling out at some barbeque in May. Plus, we barbequed last night. I'd like to give a shout-out to acid reflux.

Dysfunctional Chewing

OK. I've been chewing food now for well over 34 years. How is it possible that I bit my cheek while trying to enjoy a hot turkey sandwich. True, I was excited about the meal. I may have been moving more quickly with the fork than usual, but not to the point of recklessness. And even though I may have been guilty of "shoveling", I chewed the food at my normal pace.

Do I really need to concentrate when I'm chewing? I thought chewing was something instinctual, like blinking or swallowing. I don't have to concentrate on blinking, unless I'm in captivity and sending covert morse code signals to my rescuers. I don't have to concentrate on swallowing, unless it's a Centrum because they're big and they smell (Advil, however, is freaking delicious.)

I guess there's never a good time to bite your cheek, but I'd much rather it happen on a Monday or Tuesday. Now, I'll have to deal with this mouth injury all weekend. Oh well, TGIF anyway. Be aware of your chewing this weekend. Don't make the same mistake I did.

Potpourri

Idol Finale
So, Taylor won. Good for him. I hope the "first single" they wrote for him isn't indicative of what kind of music he'll do. It sounded like it was intended for Michael Bolton. They need to write stuff more suitable for Joe Cocker. Here is some free Taylor Hicks music where you can find some things he wrote himself.

Long, Cold Summer
The Cubs are officially done. Stick a fork in them. We took a family field trip to "Dolphins Stadium" on Tuesday night to see it for ourselves. I came back with a positive, visual ID. Whatever final gasp of air left in this team was just sucked out when they were beaten 3 straight by the Marlins, a team made-up almost entirely of rookies. Baseball season is over for me. I guess I'll just concentrate on nesting.

Pregnancy Update
As of Wednesday, Mrs. U is 19 weeks. Our due date was moved up one day to October 18, probably because of my son's massive brain. The boy is kicking a lot. He responds to music and sugary foods, just like his dad.

Nursery Theme Decision

Mrs. Undaground and I have discussed it, and we've decided on a nursery theme for Baby Wattsizname.

This was not an easy decision. There was definitely some back-and-forth involved with the whole process. Here's how the conversation went:



I am Dad.
I am Dad.
Dad-I-am.

I do not like those nursery walls,
I do not like those themes at all.

Would you like them Mighty Mouse?
Would you like them Mickey Mouse?

I do not like the Classic Pooh.
I do not like Hot-Air Balloons.
I do not like the Jungle Scene.
I do not like the Lion King.
I do not like the Peter Pan.
I do not like them, Dad-I-am.

Could we paint some baseball jocks?
Could we paint some boats and docks?

Not baseball jocks.
Not boats and docks.
Not Mighty Mouse.
Not Mickey Mouse.
I would not paint them Classic Pooh.
I would not paint Hot-Air Ballooons.
I would not paint them Peter Pan.
I do not like them, Dad-I-am.

Would you? Could you?
Trucks and Cars?
Paint them! Paint them!
Here they are.

I would not,
could not,
Trucks and Cars.

You may like them. You will see.
You may like some bumble bees!

I would not, could not bumble bees.
Not Trucks and Cars! You let me be.

A train! A train!
A train! A train!
Could you, would you,
paint a train?

Not paint a train! Not bumble bees!
Not trucks and cars! Dad! Let me be!

Could you, would you, paint a zoo?
Would you, could you, paint it blue?

I could not, would not, paint a zoo.
I will not, will not, paint it blue.

I do not like that Dr. Seuss!
I do not like him. He's no use.

You do not like him.
So you say.
Try him! Try him!
And you may.
Try him and you may, I say.

Say!

I do so like that brilliant plan!
Thank you! Thank you, Dad-I-am!

First Images

Here are the first images of our boy. After the whole birth thing, I hope to take some better pictures than these. Honestly, I didn't take these. It was somebody else. The lighting was poor at best and, from a photography standpoint, the pictures left a little to be desired. Have you ever heard of composition, lady?

We have not yet decided on a name. I don't think it's something we're going to reveal until the birth, so we can keep one thing secret. Just for kicks, though, I'm going to try out some names while describing the photos below. We'll see if anything sticks. Oh well, here they are (You can click on the photos for larger images):



This is a nice profile of our little Nathan Jessup Undaground. Notice the hand up near his eyes. While it looks like he may be playing an early form of peek-a-boo, he's really saluting us as if he were in the military. I was watching a Few Good Men a few weekends ago, so I'm thinking that's where he got it from.

This is another profile of our son, Genus Edition Undaground. This is the first photo where you can start to get a feel for the size of his enormous brain. I'm very pleased about this. For years, I have traveled the globe, trying to find somebody to beat me at Trivial Pursuit, to no avail. Now, I have created a son who will someday be the one to end my streak.

This is what I see when I close my eyes at night and try to picture an alien. No offense to our son, L. Ron Undaground.

Mitch Gaylord Undaground is very active and agile. Here, he has completely flipped in the womb to give us a shot of his other side.

This picture really brings up the whole nature vs. nurture debate. I thought I was going to have to teach my son how to eat a sandwich while lying on the couch. Judging by the photo, Chip Undaground has already figured it out. Atta boy, son.

Undaground Announcement

I'm pleased to announce

The ultrasound results are in.

I'm proud to say,

There was no doubt about it.

Just as I had hoped,

It's a boy

Nurse: It's a boy Mrs. Walker it's a boy. It's a boy Mrs. Walker it's a boy.

Chorus: A son! A son! A son!

Ultrasound pictures coming Tuesday.

Five Thoughts for Friday

1. Ear Worm
Is it just me, or is this little ditty stuck in anyone else's head?:

Swimming, soccer, ballet, oboe, and last but not least: KAR-A-TAY-A...
Swimming, soccer, ballet, oboe, and one more time: KAR-A-TAY-A.

Makes me want to eat some doughnuts.

2. Boy or Girl?
Today's the day, hopefully. Come on kid, show Mommy and Daddy and the ultrasound technician your "special place". From this day forward, until your 18th birthday, you should always keep that private, unless it's bath time. But today, we need you to cooperate so we know what color to paint your room and we can stop calling you "it".

3. American Idol
I wouldn't say I'm officially a member of the "Soul Patrol". I haven't paid any membership dues or joined any mailing lists, but I am pulling for Taylor Hicks. Let's hear it for premature gray!!! I'm slowly morphing into more of a salt-and-pepper guy, myself.

4. Tivo Alert
Going Tribal is back for its second season. Tuesdays 10pm on the Discovery Channel. Do yourself a favor and watch it. Keep an eye out for reruns. It is quite possibly the finest show on television.

5. Number 5
I should have named this post "Four Thoughts for Friday". I would have still achieved the level of alliteration I was going for, and I could have avoided this drivel about not having an appropriate thought for the 5th thing on this list.

Pregnancy Update: Week 18

Mrs. Undaground is 18 weeks pregnant today. In two weeks, she'll be halfway there.

The baby's been moving a lot and she feels it at some point every day. I'm waiting for that moment where I can feel it, but not really looking forward to the times when complete strangers ask to feel my wife's belly. I've heard that those things happen. I hope they ask before they do it. If so, I can jump in and respond with a question of my own:

Example:
Q: "Can I feel your belly?"
A: "Can I use your bathroom?"

Here's some more information on week 18 from this website.

Our little one is nearly half a pound now and very human looking.

This is comforting. First of all, we're now speaking in terms of pounds and not ounces. Also, we are hoping for a human.

Meconium, the baby's first bowel movement, is accumulating within the bowel.

Because of this, I've been reading the newspaper to Mrs. Undaground's belly each day. I'm sticking with the sports section, just in case it's a boy. If it's a girl, she'll deny ever having a bowel movement.

If your baby is a boy, his prostate gland is beginning to develop.

Atta boy!

If you notice your belly making jerky movements in sync, don't panic; your baby may have the hiccups!

I have an uncanny ability to get rid of peoples' hiccups, but I've never tried it on a fetus.

If you're having an ultrasound to verify fetal age or for other reasons, your careprovider will probably schedule it between now and 20 weeks. It's often possible to determine your baby's sex at this stage, and you'll be able to tell arms from legs and all sorts of delightful details!

This is scheduled for tomorrow afternoon (Friday). We can't wait. We are hoping that the baby cooperates and we can find out the gender. If so, you'll read it here on Monday. Of course, if you're part of the phone tree or you personally know our ultrasound technician, you could find out before then.

Remembering Tom and Jerry

When I was just a young lad, back before the days of answering machines and microwave ovens, I enjoyed coming home from school and watching a television program called "Tom and Jerry". Maybe you've heard of it. It was a show about a cat and a mouse. It was great fun to watch these two natural enemies navigate their way through their cartoon world.

Sometimes I related to Jerry. The poor, little rodent was just trying to make a better life for himself, but he had to constantly dodge an angry, hungry feline who was out for blood.

Most of the time, I identified with Tom. On the surface, Tom was a simple cat. He enjoyed blues music, female cats with long eyelashes, and fresh-baked pie. Unfortunately for him, his owner had a pest problem and apparently didn't have the money to hire a trapper.

Deep down, Tom was as complicated as you and me. He had complex feelings and often struggled with ethical decisions. In animated form, these decisions manifested themselves as a little angel standing on one shoulder and a little devil on the other.

Often, when I am trying to figure out how to respond appropriately to a situation, I think of Tom and try to recognize what my little angel is saying versus what my little devil is saying. It's good to take the time to weigh your response before you say something you regret.

I'm not sure what made me think of Tom and Jerry. I don't really like cats. I'm allergic to them and they have a tendency to vomit on your couch whenever they feel like it. I also think all mice should be fed to snakes.

As for "Tom and Jerry" the television show: eventually, the show morphed into a piece of crap. Jerry began wearing a bowtie, Tom lost his ability to frown or get angry, and the two of them were suddenly best pals. It might be one of the worst cases of jumping the shark ever in television history. Whoever made the decision to take the show in that direction was obviously listening to the little idiot standing on one of his shoulders.

Cha-Ching

Happy belated Mother's Day to all mothers and mothers-to-be out there. We "celebrated" by taking our first family trip to Babies R Us. It was very sobering.

First, since I'm a big fan of gadgetry, we checked out the baby monitors. I like the video monitor, but it does cost a little extra. It would be nice to have the video thing. What if the kid decided to smile or clap his/her hands for the first time with no humans present to witness it? A video monitor would make sure we didn't miss it. Cha-Ching.

We then walked through the maze of car seats. These are very nice. Turns out we'll be able to start out with an infant car seat with a base for each car, then switch to two of the bigger car seats that don't come with individual bases. Cha-ching, cha-ching, cha-ching.

We'll need a stroller for festivals and parks, and a smaller stroller to travel with; possibly a third stroller if I ever want to take up jogging. Cha-ching, cha-ching, cha-ching.

The high chairs are cool. Mrs. Undaground and I like the Eddie Bauer model. Why not live it up a little for that first mashed potato experience? If you're going to smear food all over a piece of furniture, why not go top-of-the-line? Cha-ching.

One of the things we're looking forward to is decorating and furnishing the nursery. If I were a little more metro-sexual, I may have chosen a career as an interior decorator. Crib, changing table, dresser. Cha-ching, cha-ching, cha-ching. What's that Mom-to-be? You like the wall unit with the hutch? All of those pregnancy books tell me I should agree with everything you say for a few more months so you don't get stressed out, so I say "Let's go for it." Cha-ching.

Mrs. Undaground informed me that crib mattresses are sold separately. Cha-ching.

We definitely need a glider-rocker. Oooh, this one is comfortable. I could live with this thing. Let's just check out the tag. Wow! $600? Ottoman sold separately for $250? Who buys a chair without an ottoman? Wait, here's one for $150 for the whole set. Let's sit on this one. Feels like concrete. Cha-ching, cha-ching.

Ouch. I might have to dust off my waiter shoes and pick up a few weekend shifts at a local eatery so our baby can be rocked in a suitable chair. It turns out, babies are expensive. I had no idea. I can't even bring myself to write about the research we've been doing on the cost of daycare. It's too depressing. On the bright side, Mrs. Undaground is now actively encouraging me in my quest to win the World Series of Poker.

Whatever happened to the old days? I'm not talking about the 70's'; I'm talking about the covered wagon days. All a baby needed then was a blanket and a boob, and all was well. I guess there was a greater risk of being carried off by a coyote, so video monitors could have been helpful, but that's about it.

No wonder I washed my parents' cars and mowed the lawn when I was a kid. I owed them. I've already got a to-do list for this unborn child that I'll present to him/her on their 11th or 12th birthday. I'm thinking that by the time the baby's a toddler, I can teach him/her how to perform simple tasks like retrieving the remote control or brushing the dog. Until then, we'll just have to deal with a freeloader for a couple of years.

Survivor Finale

Blah. Disappointing. Actually, the last several weeks were kind of lame to watch.

To all future Survivor contestants: Even though you think this show is about winning a million dollars, it's not. It's about making good TV.

If you've been chosen for Survivor, you probably want to give up your old career and be a reality television star. Look at Boston Rob or others who've made "Good TV" on Survivor. They're still finding their way onto television screens, stretching out their fifteen minutes of fame beyond their Survivor experience.

If you ever make it on the show, keep this in mind. Alliances are boring until somebody flips. Giving somebody your "word" is only entertaining if you then go back on your word and stab them in the back. I'm not talking about real life; I'm talking about a television show.

Winning a million dollars should be your second priority; making a good TV show should be your first. Nobody ever remembers the winners as much as they remember those who strived to make memorable reality tv moments.

I'll watch the next season, no doubt, but I won't be happy about it unless somebody entertains me.

Undaground Cinema

As you've probably already read, my sister-in-law was in town last weekend. One of the activities we shared was a viewing of "Almost Famous". She had not seen it, and it is one of my favorite movies. I was inspired to make a list of the Undaground's top 25 movies not named Godfather I or II (those are givens).

All of the movies listed below stand the test of time with me. If I stumble upon them on cable or pop the movie in the DVD player, I can stay interested no matter how many times I've seen it. Some of these are wildly popular. Some are cult favorites. You've probably seen most of them. If not, I encourage you to go get them. They are listed alphabetically.

Almost Famous
One of two Cameron Crowe movies on this list. This is a semi-autobiographical account of his own teenage years. He uses music in his movies as well as anyone. I love this movie.

American Movie
The only documentary on this list. This was made just before reality TV became a reality. Go rent it. Unintentional comedy is hilarious.

Ben Hur
The oldest movie on my list. The chariot scene is a miracle considering when this movie was made. If you haven't seen it, carve out a couple of Saturday mornings and watch it one hour at a time. It's quite long.

Best in Show
I like all of the improv movies made by the original Spinal Tap crew. This, however, is the best of the bunch.

The Blues Brothers
The only musical on this list. It's a shame that they even tried to make a sequel, which I promise I will never, ever, ever watch unless John Belushi comes back from the dead and watches it with me.

Big
Forget Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Philadelphia, Apollo 13 or any of Tom Hanks' other critically acclaimed movies. They are all great films, but this is his finest acting performance, hands down.

Bull Durham
I like baseball movies. I loved Field of Dreams, Bad News Bears, Eight Men Out, but Bull Durham stands above the rest as the best baseball movie ever made.

Caddyshack
I defy you to play a round of golf and not hear someone in your foursome quote this American Classic.

Garden State
This was made very recently, but I think it will still be on my list a decade from now.

Goodfellas
I almost left this off the list because Henry Hill is a rat. Every time I watch it, I dislike him more. I wish they would make a movie from somebody else's point of view. I guess it's a cautionary tale about choosing friends wisely.

The Graduate
This is another classic made before I was born. If you like "The Graduate", then rent "The Pallbearer" starring David Schwimmer.

Groundhog Day
Rarely does a story come along that hasn't been told before. This is one of those stories.

Groundhog Day
Rarely does a story come along that hasn't been told before. This is one of those stories.

Groundhog Day
Rarely does a story come along that hasn't been told before. This is one of those stories.

The Karate Kid
I don't care if this is thought of as more of an 80's punchline than a great movie. This movie had a profound effect on me as a youth. Ask my mother, who had to pay for Karate lessons, or the poor Asian man down the street, whose fence I painted without his permission.

Meet the Parents
Great comedy. Skip "Meet the Fockers", because it's the exact same movie.

Napoleon Dynamite
If you didn't get it or don't like it, watch it 10 or 12 more times and it will get better each time.

One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
Jack Nicholson's best movie, if you ask me.

The Right Stuff
This is another extremely long movie, but worth your time. It's educational, too.

Rudy
Every time Rudy sacks the quarterback, a tear rolls down my cheek.

Say Anything
Another Cameron Crowe movie. John Cusack is an 80's icon. This is more of a dramady than a comedy. See Better off Dead if you want wacky Cusack comedy.
Shawshank Redemption
Unbelievable storytelling.

Sixth Sense
I knew that there was a surprise ending, and I didn't guess what it was. It all seems so obvious now.

Stand By Me
This is another one of those movies of my youth that I watched over and over again. Just like Shawshank Redemption, this was based on a Stephen King short story.

Swingers
Probably my favorite movie not named Godfather. It's the guy-equivalent of a chick-flick. If you haven't seen it, indulge yourself.

Top Gun
That's right. I said it. The bald guy who plays the screaming officer on the aircraft carrier is my favorite character actor of all time. "I gotta send two of you bozos to Miramar!!!"

The Usual Suspects
Another surprise ending. Cool movie from top to bottom.

Questions? Comments? Concerns? Do you love any of these movies? Hate them? What did I miss?

Pregnancy Update: Week 17

Mrs. Undaground is 17 weeks pregnant today. Next Friday, we hope to find out the gender. I've consulted a couple of baby websites for this vital information, that you can see below in green.

This is a period of rapid growth as the fat begins to form underneath the baby's skin.

If the child takes after his/her father, this fat will be undetectable until sometime after the 23rd birthday. It's all downhill from there, though you can generally lose some of that fat by consistently travelling uphill.

The reflexes are probably in place now as the baby sucks, swallows and blinks.

Our baby doesn't suck. Knock it off. Your website sucks. There, how do you like it?

Have you felt any fluttering in your uterus? You may be feeling your baby move any time now if you haven't already!

Yes!!! Mrs. Undaground called me yesterday at work to tell me she felt the baby move for the first time. She said that, at first, she thought it was just gas. I happen to know that my wife doesn't get gas. (There was that one incident about three years ago, but we agreed never to speak of it again.)

Anyway, for the record, the first movement was felt at 16 weeks, 6 days. To celebrate, I enjoyed a beer and Mrs. Undaground had some vodka. Not really.

Your baby is approximately 5 inches long and weighs in at about 140-145 grams (5 ounces). This means that the baby now weighs more than the placenta.

This also means our baby weighs about the same as a regulation baseball. The same baseball that will be placed in the left hand of my first-born son just minutes after his birth. The world needs more left handed pitchers. Daddy needs a new house in 20 years. Go, boy, and make millions with that golden arm.

If you were to get an abdominal x-ray, your baby's skeleton would be visible. His/her movements become stronger and more frequent now. Reflex movements are fully functional as baby will regularly suck and swallow and loud noises outside the uterus may actually cause the baby to startle.

Guess I should stop hiding behind doors and jumping out to scare Mrs. Undaground. I might scare the baby.

Common Courtesy

Even though I generally dislike people, I honestly try to do my part to make the world a better place.

Yesterday, as the traffic light I was sitting at turned green, I stopped and let some guy pull out into the lane in front of me. I often do this as a sort of traffic karma gesture. I figure if a guy from Jersey lets people in, others will feed off of that positive energy and do what they can to make my commute more enjoyable in return.

Normally, when I give someone a gift, I don't expect anything in return; I get enough joy out of giving. However, when I give someone a gift in traffic, I expect a hand wave. I admit that I don't really benefit all that greatly from a hand wave, but it's nice to know that someone appreciates me and my car for the gesture.

In this case, the guy pulled out and didn't even look my way. Once he was in front of me, I decided to take the bull by the horns, and I gave him an exaggerated "you're welcome" wave, hoping he would catch it in his rear-view mirror. Still nothing.

I'm sorry to announce to the drivers of South Florida, that this self-absorbed jerk has now ruined it for all of you. For the rest of the work week, I will not be letting anyone into traffic. Find another sucker.

(Update: In moment of weakness, on the way into work this morning, I relented and let an old man pull in to traffic in front of me. He extended his hand in a wave and kept it out his window the entire time he negotiated his turn. My faith in the human race has been temporarily restored.

Thanks old man. I'll probably see you in the grocery store, when you run your cart into the back of my legs in the checkout line.)

Mid-morning crisis

How did I get to this point? It's 1130am on a Saturday, I'm sitting in a crowded room, picking fragments of half-chewed cookie from my face and my shirt. I look down at the shirt, and on it is a familiar cartoon character from the 70's. The rest of the people at my table are belly-laughing. The sight of other people laughing is enough to make me laugh. Have I been transported back to my days as a toddler? Am I in a high chair, eating my first baked treat? I guess for me to understand why I'm in this predicament, I'll have to retrace my steps and start at the beginning.

One of the things I enjoy doing is going out to breakfast on Saturday mornings. It's something I've always looked forward to, and something I'd like to continue doing for many years to come; even into my golden years.

As I inch closer to my 35th birthday, I understand that it's a milestone of sorts. First of all, in three weeks, I'll be legally able to run for president. I don't plan on throwing my hat in the ring, but it's nice to know I'll have that option. At 35, I'll also become a father for the first time. Those are two huge positives. There are, however, some negative feelings for me considering I'll be closer to 40 than 30. I don't have the money to go out and buy a corvette, but I heard that helps. In the meantime, I can only go by the mantra that you're only as old as you feel, and try to live that way.

I felt nice and young this past Saturday. My wife's sister and a friend were visiting to attend some concerts at Sunfest. They have both just completed their first year at college and, all weekend long, I was reminded what it felt like to be a college student, when concerts and Saturday morning breakfasts in a strange town were the norm. As I pulled on my Speed Racer retro t-shirt and a baseball cap and looked forward to a western omelette and another concert late in the day, I felt like a college student again, if only for a short time.

Saturday breakfasts in South Florida can be tricky. Sometimes, we have to deal with long waits. Other times, the service is less than adequate. Every time, we have to dodge elderly folks as they wander aimlessly in and out of our personal space with no regard for anybody too young to remember the Depression.

We were seated relatively quickly, and it was immediately clear that our waitress was having a bad day. She seemed slightly annoyed that we weren't ready to order the first time she asked. She gave us that look; that look that says "It's breakfast dummies... It's the same menu everywhere for breakfast. Eggs, pancakes, french toast... Why would you even need to look at the menu." In another life, I was a waiter at a country club and often had to work breakfast. I understood, so I didn't let it bother me that our server was less than cordial.

Feeling young and a little saucy, I took advantage of Mrs. Undaground's new willingness to order more stuff, since we're eating for three. In addition to the omelette, we enjoyed some potato pancakes.

Mmmmm.

Monday seemed so far away. Thirty-five seemed even more distant. Life is good, and so are carbohydrates.

The waitress dropped off our check a few minutes after the food came. We had all we needed, or at least we thought we did. She must have felt a pang of guilt for giving us a slight attitude, so as we finished up our breakfast, she returned to the table with a small plate. "I brought you girls some cookies from the bakery."

Oh, that was nice. I hope there's a cookie in there for the man at the table.

Sure enough, she continued, "And there's even one in there for (pause) Dad."

Gulp.

For one-tenth of a second, I asked myself, "How did she know that we were expecting? That's so sweet. "Dad" has a nice ring to it."

Then, in the time it took for my jaw to hit the paper menu in front of me, I realized the horror of what had just happened. The girls were giddy with laughter. Mrs. Undaground was trying to figure out whether she was "Mom" or another one of my daughters in this woman's twisted Bizarro-world fantasy.

I wanted to call the waitress back to pursue a line of questioning about her statement. What about my Speed Racer shirt? How old do you think I am? How old do you think she is, or her, or her? Why did you pause before you said "Dad"? Was it so you could look at me and confirm it? Did your parents have you when they were 13? Did you escape from a facility recently? Are you on any medication? What is an appropriate tip for someone who has just insulted you?

She didn't return to the table. I sat there for a moment, stunned. I watched the waitress as she stopped by a newly-seated table. What would she say to them? Hey ugly and uglier, can I take your order. She was no prize, herself. I'm not one to judge, but I was injured. People in glass houses shouldn't walk around naked (or throw stones, for that matter).

I lashed out like any young, impulsive person would. As my wife's sister bit into her cookie from across the table, I looked at all three of my dining companions and said "I can't believe I just got mistaken for middle-aged by someone who looks like they're from Middle Earth."

This struck my sister-in-law funny, and the cookie quickly became a comedy prop. She did a spit-take, that propelled cookie fragment across the table like shrapnel. I'm hit! I caught a piece of soggy shortcake in the forehead, one in the throat, and two more on my shoulder.

So there I was: humiliated, wearing a cartoon shirt, and topped with cookie crumbs like some kind of dumbass-sundae.

"You're only as old as you feel."

The day had barely started, and I had gone from feeling like a 34-year-old, to feeling like a college kid, to feeling like a 55-year-old father of three, to feeling like an overgrown toddler. I guess that's the thing about being in your mid-30's: Sometimes, you're not sure how to feel. Am I old? Am I young? Depends on who you ask.

For the record: That night, I partied like a rock star. Hey, if Mick Jagger can do it...

Pregnancy Update: 16 weeks (belated)

To anybody who's following along with the pregnancy updates, I must apologize that I didn't give an update late last week. No worries, here it is:

Thursday, our baby reached 16 weeks. The fetus is now emptying his/her bladder once every 40-45 minutes. I can relate, because whenever I'm out and drinking beer, I follow that same timeline (once I break the seal, of course).

The size is now about 4 inches long, weighing 3 ounces. That's the same weight as the adult pygmy marmoset, the world's smallest monkey. However, the pygmy marmoset still has a significant height advantage over our little fetus. Most of that is probably due to the monkey's long tail.

Although it would be a nice conversation piece, I'm hoping our child is born without a tail. I have no idea where we'd find an appropriate carseat.

People Watching

Wednesday night, as Kool and the Gang jammed their way through "Jungle Boogie", Mrs. Undaground asked me, "Do you see the guy playing air guitar."

"Of course, I've been fixated on him since the beginning of the song. You know, I like it when people think they're safe from public ridicule and they just let themselves go like that. When I see someone acting so carefree in public, I like to watch them and silently judge them the entire time. It makes me feel good."

Surprisingly, my wife, who's a much better person than me, agreed. "I do too. It's just people watching."

About 15 minutes later, I was grooving along to the band, and singing lyrics into Mrs. Undaground's ear.

"Try my best to do what's right.... Take it for a ride, everything's nice. Ooooooh Joanna."

I have no idea how I knew the words to these songs. They must have been burned into some remote area of my brain back in the day when I was a stupid kid who listened to a top 40 station. My feet were rhythmically shuffling back and forth, and my knees were bending along to the music. My hands may have been doing something expressive as well; I can't remember. Technically, I think I was doing what ancient civilations used to call "dancing".

It was at that moment when I realized that there might be some cynical jerk lurking in the area, watching me, and telling his wife to look at the Kool and the Gang groupie singing along. Whoever it was, I hope I made him feel good about himself.

Say No to Crack

My wife is just four months pregnant, and I can already see that I'm becoming more conservative and more protective of family values. I'm cursing up a storm these days, because I read that a fetus can hear sounds from the outside world at six months. To me, that means I have two months more to let the expletives fly before I invent some new words to use for emphasis or to express frustration. I've also begun taking a look at the world around me with a more critical eye. Even at this early state of parenthood, I've started to prepare myself mentally for when my child begins asking lots of questions about birds and bees and ass cracks.

In the late 70's and early 80's, our country was overrun by an epidemic frequently referred to as plumbers' crack. At the time, is was mostly portly gentlemen who happened to be handy with a wrench. The fashion industry has now come full-circle, and it seems that low rider jeans and pants are what the females are wearing. Apparently, belts are not required.

I see gratuitous butt crack almost every day. Whether it be at work, bars or restaurants, pixelated butt crack on MTV, or just about any other public place, it's everywhere. I'm not one to judge other people, but it's safe to say that very few of these exhibitionists are supermodels. Most have similar body types to the original plumbers in the 70's. Now that I'm bringing a child into this world, I feel like I need to let the world know that their butt crack is showing before I have to prematurely explain to my son or daughter that it's not OK to show strangers your ass.

But how do you let someone know? Next time I see someone's ass, should I just walk up and say, "Excuse me. I'm not quite sure how to tell you this, but your butt is showing?" I might get punched, or they might think I'm coming on to them.

I understand the need to keep up with today's fashion. I tried growing my hair like Ashton Kutcher, so I'm just as guilty as the next guy.

Here's a tip. Next time you sit down somewhere or bend down to grab something, put your hand on your lower back where your belt loop is. If you feel your butt crack, it's probably visible. Maybe try the buddy system. When you and a friend are out in public, do them a favor and check their crack, then they can check yours in return... for the kids.

Odds and Ends

American Idol
I made a prediction after they picked the 24 finalists that the final two boys would be Taylor and Chris and the final two girls would be Katherine and Paris. Unfortunately, I didn't put it on this blog; I just said it to my wife. Taylor is my favorite, but I don't know why I even bother because I'll never own a CD from any of them anyway. The problem is that the songs they sing on the show are a lot better than the crap that will be written for their album.

A Baby Story
Have you seen this show? It's on TLC and Mrs. Undaground has started to Tivo it each day. It's safe to say that, based on this show, she's going with the epidoral. We've seen three or four women on there who said "I'm going natural. No drugs whatsoever." Then, they show them screaming during labor. Next, they cut to commercial (usually for pull-up diapers or something). When they return from commercial, they show the expectant Mom lying in bed with a smile on her face. "I just caved in and got the epidoral. It's good. It's real good."

I promise to be as supportive a husband as I can be. But, make no mistake, I'm elated that men don't get pregnant. If that were the case, I'd grow old with a house full of cats.

Hockey
The season is over for the Philadelphia Flyers. They were beaten 7-1 last night. I've improved my own ability to deal with the hockey playoffs. Instead of suffering through the debacle, I flipped over to something else when it was 2-0, checked back when it was 3-0, then abandoned it and checked the internet in the morning. This marks the umpteenth time in my life that the Flyers have been preseason Stanley Cup favorites and have failed to win it. I can't complain after WVU and the Steelers years, but it's painful nonetheless.

Tonight
Do you know the answer to this question:

How you gonna do it if you really don't wanna dance?

(Answer: By standin on the wall)

Mrs. U and I are going to see Kool and the Gang tonight as part of West Palm Beach's Sunfest.

Get your back up off the wall.

Fetal Heart Rate

Mrs. Undaground got to hear the heartbeat again on Friday. 150 bpm. The child is obviously taking after me because that's about where my heart rate is after a few minutes on the exercise bike.

Internet research shows that the whole fetal heart rate as a gender predictor thing is just an old wives tale. One site does say that a faster heart rate means there's a 5% greater chance that it's a girl. 150 bpm is about 10 bpm above the average, so there you have it. Vegas odds are set at 55/45 that it's a girl.

In 3 weeks, we'll both attend the ultrasound and know for sure, assuming the baby cooperates and gives us a look.

I've been telling everybody that I have no preference whatsoever. I'm not saying this to be politically correct. I mean it. I can find so many great things about having a boy and having a girl. I'll take either. Mrs. Undaground, on the other hand, has a preference. I won't say what it is, because I don't want our son to read this some day and get mad at his Mom because she wanted a girl.